Flourishing. Coaching Confidently. Coaching others into Confidence.

The core purpose of a coach or a leader who coaches is to use what they know about human psychology, relationship building, social and business systems and ‘life’ itself, to enable growth and optimum functioning in their coachees, with confidence. In this blog, I’ll explore my current thinking on:

• What it means to coach confidently
• What it means to coach others into confidence
• How this relates to the concept of human flourishing

Coaching Confidently – The dangers of a limited model of coaching

Coaches are often engaged with people at their most vulnerable, in a state of uncomfortable agitation or at a transitional point, personally or within an organisation. As such they are stewards, guides, navigators, teachers and mentors in times of uncertainty, ambiguity, and fluidity.
It is not their role to meet people in this territory with their own certainties, stories, beliefs and convictions. This is not what it means to coach with confidence.

To coach with confidence is to have the courage to meet coachees on this ground with our own uncertainties, insecurities and vulnerabilities. Not worn on our sleeves but carried and held within our presence into the coaching space with clients/colleagues.

In his paper, The Liberated Coach Professor David Clutterbuck reveals that many of the coaches interviewed for Techniques in Coaching and Mentoring (2004) based their practice on relatively simplistic models of a coaching conversation, such as GROW, and its derivatives.
Among the dangers, he observed in this one-model approach was that:

• Coaching becomes mechanistic.
• Critical clues to the coachee context are missed or ignored.
• Despite claims to the contrary, the coachee can easily become manipulated to fit the coach’s agenda.

This is especially true with regard to goal setting, where research indicates that fixing upon specific goals at the start of a coaching relationship can sometimes be a crutch for the coach, rather than for the benefit of the coachee.

What Professor Clutterbuck argues for instead is a coach who develops their own approach based on “an intelligent, sensitive ability to select a broad philosophical and theoretical approach, and within that approach, select appropriate tools and techniques, which meet the particular needs of a particular coachee at a particular time.”

These words inspired me to want to become what he calls a “liberated coach”.

Central to this concept is that:

• The initial learning conversations provide the clues as to what approaches and frameworks may be best suited to the coachee.
• Every learning conversation is an experiment for both the coach/mentor and the coachee.

Values and Core Purpose

Coaching for change presupposes that you engage with your coachee at a fundamental level of core purpose and values which are not always on the surface. Coaches need to be attuned to this and be listening with focused attention.
What we do not need is more rigidity and prescription in the methodology of coaches. To be a catalyst for change and transformation coaching needs to be liberated from power-based relationships and hierarchy. If not, it acts as a straightjacket and can create damage.

What is the best way to introduce coaching?

In the opinion of Professor Christian van Nierwerburgh’s, the principle of democratic voluntary involvement underpins initiatives to support the development of a coaching culture.

Coaching Others into Confidence

The people I coach do not lack confidence per se, they just cannot see a safe and non-destructive place for themselves in the predominant culture of our education system. Once they see how they can help to create such spaces they are fearless. My role is to challenge them to become change agents working from a place of authenticity and courage.

Coaching confidence does not come from the certainty that we as coaches know what will solve personal or professional problems, making clients or colleagues better teachers or better leaders. It is based on discovering what we don’t and cannot know by listening and asking the right questions that will help them to discover for themselves what will make them better teachers or leaders under the current conditions and contexts in which they live and work.

While we know that there are systemic barriers, these intersect with internal, personal barriers of attitude, perspective, bias, overplaying our values and a low capacity for self-management and self-regulation.

When we focus on system issues alone we leave the client without agency and they can only ever see themselves as a victim of circumstances.

How to get to the hidden place where the external and internal barriers meet?

Within the coaching context, instead of rigidly following a set model you initiate learning conversations from which insights and change can flow. You model an exchange that emulates a template for a learning culture that can exist inside schools, leadership teams and classrooms.
Openness, listening, tentativeness, searching, fearlessness in the face of uncertainty. This is how we best serve those we coach by modelling what our client or colleague themselves need to be – that is open to mutability and change in relation to life’s biggest and deepest questions.
Who am I, where do I belong; what is my purpose and how do I best serve and live out my purpose in this role at this point in time?

 

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Finding Happiness and Joy in Leadership and Education

By Nandarane Naina Parmar     

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Our happiness and fulfillment in having a rewarding career in leadership and education can be curtailed between balancing a diminishing budget, fewer human resources, the rise in mental health across society with the demands to secure high-performance outcomes. Much of this I know can bring distress to most when cornered with challenging expectations. What I know for sure is that a happy learning and working environment is key to success at many levels.

As an education consultant, particularly in monitoring standards, the wellbeing of those whom I work with is of prime importance to me.  The human spirit is intrinsically designed to be joyful and, in that state, life flows effortlessly, anything opposite to that brings about pain, distress, and constriction.

The more I learn about happiness, the more I discover the truth about who I am. What is important to me and what is the purpose of my life – bringing out my best and enabling others to reach beyond their expected potential.

Happiness is an inside job

In the past, I held a belief that rewards came through hard work and sacrifice. This may be partially true though not wholly. I had a belief system that happiness was for those who were selfish to some extent and only thought about themselves. What I didn’t realise and had underestimated was that happiness was the secret ingredient. It’s not a luxury but a necessity to good health and to sustaining a life of serving and experiencing the delight in enabling others to flourish and grow to be the best version of themselves.

The Buddha in his search to overcome suffering and find Happiness first tested austerity and sacrifice to later discover finding happiness was not due to external factors. Happiness was deep within himself.  He was already intrinsically happy. That sustained happiness is really an inside job. When one stops to ‘be’ and tap into their inner wisdom of who they are, their aspirations, strengths and weaknesses and owning their talents.

Vedic teachings in the Bhagavad Gita defines three different states of happiness and “that happiness, born from the tranquillity of one’s own mind, is declared to be the best (18:37).

What’s love got to do with it?

Yet in my work, I meet ever-increasing colleagues who are stressed and feeling demoralised that what they set out to do in their career is ever increasingly taking them away from making the difference.

So, what’s the key to our happiness and how do we tap into it if it’s already deep within us? As cliché as it sounds: It’s loving oneself first and then others. Not the narcissist, conceited, arrogant and unbearable self-love. It’s a quiet sense of compassion and kindness for oneself that brings joy and gratitude in the simplest of things – by being present for oneself with a stillness that isn’t bombarded by the minds incessant self-talk of fear, worry and not being enough: one that we would never think about saying to others as it would constitute abuse.  By being kind to ourselves we can also teach others to treat us kindly and when they don’t. We have enough reserve within us to know that what others think of us is not our business. What we think of ourselves and others through love and forgiveness enables us to be the change we want to see.

 

Searching for happiness  or  sparking my joy

Scientific research is proving what we already know and experience – that happiness changes how we feel and changes the brain function.

This leads me to a realisation that there is a significant difference between searching for happiness which like distress in life comes and goes in waves. Though, following what sparks my joy was more important. We stop trying to be good, the best and what we or others perceive as successful. Rather we find the best version of ourselves whom we love to be with, is courageous enough to allow us to choose the life and experiences that will enable us to thrive and take responsibility for our actions knowing, we made the best choice in the given circumstances – aligned to our values even if the outcome are not always in our control or the results we were looking for.   We do, however, have a choice as Chuck Palahniuk, the author of fight club stated:

“Find joy in everything you choose to do. Every job, relationship, home… it’s your responsibility to love it, or change it.”

Why? Because its the only way in finding the best version of yourself and in others.

 

 

 

 

 

Leading change in an uncertain world by Malcolm Groves

This blog is based on ideas from the recent book Leadership for Tomorrow – beyond the school improvement horizon by Malcolm Groves, Andrew Hobbs and John West-Burnham and published by Crown House.

There is a growing sense among school leaders that no matter how hard they work it is increasingly difficult to achieve improvement. Indeed many indicators suggest that at a national level we have seen little overall improvement in standards, especially for the most disadvantaged, over the last decade.  Combined with the expectation to deliver more for less, and contradictory education policies, this means those who work in schools are faced with increasing complexity. And over time all this leads to is increasing frustration and sense of impotence.

 

The situation is exacerbated by huge changes in the context in which schools work. For example, the increasing polarisation of society (rich and poor, north and south); the growth of virtual relationships and communication; environmental factors, such as the implications of climate change, and changes in employment. These factors are within the context of potentially increased life expectancy, meaning schools are educating young people today of whom many will be alive, and well, at the end of the century. The leadership challenge is how to balance managing current complexity against leading long-term change for the better.

 

A helpful analogy to understand what is happening can be borrowed from the energy industry. According to Andrew Curry and Tony Hodgson (2008), the challenge of achieving sustainable energy supply can be conceptualised through the lens of three horizons. The first horizon represents the way we generate and use energy at present. It is inefficient, damaging to the environment, short-term, and ultimately unsustainable. I think this is equally true of school improvement today. The third horizon represents the outlook of those who understand these limitations and are trying to create alternative, more viable, sustainable solutions to meet future needs. These might include, in energy terms, solar and wind power, hydrogen cells, biofuels, and changing consumption patterns. Such solutions are currently still experimental, not yet proven, may be contradictory, and none are yet to scale or fully tested. However, at some point, a new way forward will emerge from this experimental cauldron to supersede the unsustainable status quo.

 

Between the first and third lies another conceptual horizon, termed the second horizon. This is the space in which leaders try to make sense of and navigate between the failing, unsustainable present and an as yet uncertain and unrealised future, to try to create a meaningful way forward for their organisation, and, in the case of schools, for those in their care. For one big difference between running a school and a running an energy business lies in the fact that what school leaders do and how they do it directly shapes individual lives now, as well as impacting on the futures those individuals are able to create for themselves.

 

Some implications for school leaders of this understanding might include:

• Schools being as efficient and effective in managing and leading within the first horizon.
• School leaders developing the confidence and courage to work more in the third horizon i.e. focusing on long term, strategic development and focused innovation
• School leaders (and their consultants) paying more attention leading in the second horizon, working to carefully move beyond current constraints towards a more appropriate way of working that anticipates and responds to future needs.

 

Leading in the second horizon, based on our study over an extended period of time of school leaders working within the Schools of Tomorrow Fellowship, involves all these characteristics:

Clear values and personal authenticity: second-horizon leaders work with explicit values that guide their decision making and demonstrate authenticity through personal integrity and consistency.

Quality relationships:  their schools are emotionally literate, maintaining high-quality relationships work through mutual respect, high levels of trust and open communication and involvement.

Understanding complexity and sensitivity to context:  leadership and governance recognise the conflicting demands on school leaders develop strategies to accommodate contradiction and imposed change while also prioritising the demands of their context and its implications.

Leading change through collaboration: the demands to change are met  by interdependent partnerships, within the school, between schools, across MATs and LAs, and crucially with families and communities. The prevailing culture is very much ‘all for one and one for all’.

Building community capacity: the school is seen primarily as a community working in partnership with other communities through shared norms and values, open communication, trust and shared learning. This community is inclusive and confident in responding to internal tensions and imposed demands.

Working through loose-tight relationships: second horizon leaders across partnerships, in schools and in classrooms, achieve a consistent and sensitive balance between the non-negotiables and areas where there is opportunity for choice and diversity. The emphasis is on maximising the loose whenever possible and appropriate.

 

What is important about these six characteristics is that they are not alternative elements in a menu but rather the components of a recipe to be used in varying proportions according to the situation.

 

The Schools for Tomorrow approach works through an interdependent and mutually reinforcing strategy, within its four-quadrant framework for school purpose and quality (see Fig 1).  Each component is enhanced through interaction with the others and so becomes embedded across all dimensions of a school’s work and life.

FIG 1: THE SCHOOLS OF TOMORROW FRAMEWORK FOR SCHOOL PURPOSE AND QUALITY

 

To quote one of the headteachers involved:

This journey has got a vision, but we’re having to modify as we go along. You try something and it doesn’t work. It’s a bit like evolution, sometimes appearing haphazard. But we’re not just changing as result of chance or external pressure, but because of reflection on our journey and learning.

 

A major problem with many approaches to school improvement and the reason why long-term improvement has made so little progress over the last decade or so has been the piecemeal and incremental approach to external pressure that is too often involved. And as consultants we carry our share of the blame for this.

 

Reference:

Curry, A. and Hodgson, A. (2008). Seeing in Multiple Horizons: Connecting Futures to Strategy, Journal of Futures Studies, 13(1): 1–20.

 

Would like to collaborate on an article about Home Education?

Can you hear me?  I can hear you. Can you hear me?   And with that simple exchange at the start of Glenys Hart’s presentation on publishing as an Education Consultant, I was right back in the 1990’s; a young psychology assistant testing the usability of video conferencing over the internet.  Back in those days, with five frames per second and 2Mb connections, conversations stalled and it took the most determined of souls to persist.  Fast forward 20 years, it is a breeze, and with a handy calendar invite –  three clicks and we were all there!

Perhaps because of my early experiences with a virtual team working, Glenys’ message about the value of collaborative writing resonated with me and over the last few days, I have reflected on the place of virtual teamwork in writing.  My current image of a writer is a lonely one, my computer and I, and a coffee wrestling with ideas until the early hours of the morning.   Added to which, I am the only consultant in my field, in my area, and I feel a keen sense of having to strike out on my own.  Yet Glenys was clear, some of her best work came from sharing ideas with another writer, and crafting sentences together.

My current writing project is an article on my LinkedIn page.   Ideas are taking shape, but I have yet to commit them to paper, as it feels daunting.  However, with this new perspective, I wonder who I could team up with and feel excited by the prospect.  With this new mindset different formats for the article have also presented themselves, and even writing with someone who comes from an opposing perspective.

What better way to strip away my prejudices than writing with someone who sees them!  So, if there is a member of SEC out there who would like to collaborate on an article about Home Education I would love to hear from you.

Thanks, Glenys for sharing your experience and Charmaine for hosting the session.  I hope you don’t mind, but you are now part of my virtual team!

 

Rachel McEwan

Bidding For Contracts

A group of us in the SEC recently met virtually (using the Zoom platform) to discuss how to bid for contracts, and to exchange hints and tips.  Here are some of the points from our discussion.

The first point to make is that you have to be prepared to fail, most of the time.  The consultancy market is very open, and there are many small firms bidding for contracts (including SEC members!).  So we need the mind-set that goes full out to win a tender, but we must also protect ourselves from the impact of failure by arguing that it’s all a bit of a lottery in any case.

Does this mean that we have to put in shedloads of bids in order to stand a chance of putting bread on the table?  Well, yes, frankly: but nothing much usually is gained by bidding for work where we have neither the knowledge nor experience.  We’re likely to be particularly wasting our time, and no-one wants to appear to potential clients like the child in class who always shouts “Me! Me! Me!” whenever teacher asks a question.

But, OK, we’ve decided to bid for a particular project, and we’ve got the “Invitation to tender” in front of us.  What to do?  My next point always strikes colleagues as obvious: in putting our bid together we must follow the instructions in the Invitation, precisely.  This is an exact equivalent of the “read the instructions on the exam paper carefully” advice we all used to get as pupils.  If we take care to answer all the questions posed in the Invitation, in the order given, with signposts (“You ask for our experience in designing reading schemes for KS1.  Our experience is …”) then we will give a good impression from the start.

However, and in any event, any good tender needs in my view to include five things.

• A background analysis of why the work is actually necessary. We may think that the Invitation to Tender has told us this already, but we should add value here by digging a little deeper into why the work needs doing.  (What, in our view, is wrong with existing KS1 reading schemes?).
• A very detailed workplan of what we will actually do if awarded the contract. It is hard to go into too much detail here: clients’ main worry is that consultants will take their money and then just faff around until it’s all spent.  The best way of alleviating this worry is to lay out our proposed work plan person day by person day, with calendar dates.  Our workplan also drives our fee calculation (see below).
• Specifically, a detailed description of what the client will get out of the project, both at the end and along the way if appropriate. This is another “anti-faff” measure.  Will we produce a report?  Will we run workshops, for whom and how many?  Will we write materials, and who will retain the copyright?  It’s always good to offer deliverables that the client didn’t specify in the Invitation to Tender, as a bonus – how about a staff training day, no extra charge?
• Why we’re likely to be the best consultants to carry out this project. What are our skills?  What experience do we have in similar projects?  We’ll need to offer both skills and experience if we’re to be successful.  If we have worked for the client before, that should be a plus, providing the project went well …
• And finally, what’s it going to cost? Well, we can multiply the number of person days we calculated (see above) by our daily rate, and that will give us our fee.  Most tendered projects are price-competitive, so a low daily rate will increase our chance of winning, but it has to be worth turning out.  People often say that a low daily rate wrecks the market for one’s work, but I’ve never experienced this.  And it’s perfectly OK to charge extra for travelling expenses (including car mileage): by stating this cost separately we can keep our daily rate that bit lower.

The very best of luck with all your competitive tenders.

 

John Atkins
enquiries@sec.org.uk

Consultants and Gurus

What do Consultants, Gurus, teachers, and seekers of truth have in common?

Last year, I decided to take some time out of my consultancy and life in London to take a six-month sabbatical and retreated to a monastery in West Bengal surrounded by a simple life with the peace and tranquillity of rice paddy fields and in moment’s notice the illusion of peace is shattered by hooting rickshaws and the bellowing horns of overloaded trucks, bicycles and a thousand voices all speaking at the same time.  Only India displays such ambiguity so starkly.

Meditation and silence challenged me to take the sole association of my mind and forced me to confront myself. At times my mind was my best friend and other times, my worst enemy.

In battling with my internal challenges, I realised that to find real peace and joy, we must be serving others in one shape or form on the battlefield of life, not in seclusion and thus it brings about a sense of significance, contribution, variety and a purpose to our existence.

Whilst consultancy appears a glorified role or position of expertise, it is, in short, one of serving others for the highest benefit to pupils without any selfish motivation. I concluded that the commonality between a consultant, guru, a teacher is that we all

share our knowledge and understanding through common values and virtues, to enable others to grow and always being detached from any selfish motive to benefit for oneself and therefore speaking without fear or favour.

How have you found your calling in consultancy?

By Nandarane Naina Parmar